Grief expert reveals how to support grieving loved ones on Mother’s Day

Louis shares, “We’ve created a culture where ‘not knowing what to say’ has become an acceptable reason for saying nothing. But gestures, even imperfect ones, matter more than perfect words.

That said, some phrases are better avoided, as they can unintentionally make someone feel more alone, because certain responses have become cultural reflexes that tend to close down grief rather than acknowledge it. Here are some things worth being aware of.”

Toxic positivity, like “Stay strong” or “Time heals,” can dismiss their pain, too, and comparisons, such as “I know how you feel,” should only be used if you’ve experienced similar grief.

What to Say Instead

There’s no perfect phrase that fixes grief. What matters, according to the charity, is reminding someone they’re not alone.

Simple, honest acknowledgment goes a long way; sayings like "I'm thinking of you today" or "Today might be rough, but I'm here if you need me" can have a big impact on someone grieving, says Louis.

He adds, “Some brands now let you opt out of Mother's Day emails, which is thoughtful, but you can't opt out of grief.”

Charity Apart of Me designed a range of cards for those who are still unsure about how to reach out this Mother's Day.

You can see these cards here.